Why So Many People Hate Their Jobs and What Empathetic Leadership Changes

Across industries and geographies, a growing number of people describe their relationship with work using one consistent word: disconnected. I believe this is one of the most important signals leaders should be paying attention to right now, because when people emotionally disengage from work, performance, loyalty, and wellbeing decline at the same time.

For many employees, work has become something to endure rather than a place to grow. Gallup’s data repeatedly shows that the majority of the global workforce feels disengaged, and yet organisations often respond to this reality by focusing on surface-level solutions. Salary increases, perks, or short-term incentives may offer momentary relief, but they rarely address the deeper reason people feel dissatisfied at work.

In my experience, the issue is not that people dislike responsibility, challenge, or ambition. It is that they no longer feel understood. They do not feel seen, heard, or valued for who they are beyond their output. When employees feel reduced to a function rather than recognised as a human being, motivation erodes quickly.

This is where empathetic leadership changes everything. Empathy at work allows leaders to understand the lived reality of their people, including the pressures they face, the barriers to performance, and the context they operate within. Empathetic leadership does not lower expectations or remove accountability. Instead, it creates the conditions where high standards are achievable and sustainable.

Listening plays a critical role here. Leaders who practise Listening-Led Leadership gain insight that no engagement survey can fully capture. Through active listening, leaders understand why people are struggling, where friction exists, and what support is actually needed. Employees who feel listened to are far more likely to contribute ideas, raise concerns early, and remain committed to their organisation.

When empathy is absent, organisations often misinterpret disengagement as laziness, entitlement, or a lack of resilience. In reality, disengagement is usually a response to prolonged feeling unheard or unsupported. Over time, this leads to presenteeism, quiet withdrawal, and ultimately resignation. This is not a talent problem. It is a leadership problem.

Empathy also reshapes how people experience meaning at work. Humans are inherently social, and our sense of purpose is deeply tied to feeling connected to others. When leaders foster workplace cultures grounded in empathy, trust, and understanding, employees are more likely to find value in their contribution and align with organisational goals.

Neuroscience reinforces why this matters. When people feel psychologically safe, their cognitive capacity improves. Creativity increases, problem-solving sharpens, and collaboration becomes easier. Conversely, when people feel threatened, ignored, or undervalued, the brain prioritises self-protection over performance. No amount of pressure can override this biological reality.

I believe organisations that want to reverse disengagement must stop asking how to motivate people and start asking how to understand them. Empathy is not an abstract concept. It is a daily leadership practice, expressed through listening, curiosity, and responsiveness.

The organisations that succeed in the years ahead will not be those that extract more from their people, but those that reconnect work with humanity. Empathetic leadership is the bridge between performance and purpose, and it is one of the most powerful tools leaders have to transform how people feel about their work.

About Mimi Nicklin:
Mimi Nicklin is a globally recognised keynote speaker, bestselling author, and Founder of Empathy Everywhere, working with organisations worldwide through leadership development, training, keynotes, masterclasses, and webinars. Recognised as the #1 Workplace Wellbeing leader, Mimi has reached over four million people globally through her work in empathetic leadership, listening, and Listening-Led Leadership, helping organisations strengthen employee engagement, workplace culture, and performance in complex, AI driven environments. Her work reframes empathy as a critical leadership capability grounded in neuroscience and applied through practical empathy training and organisational development. With a mission to reconnect one million people by 2028, Mimi Nicklin is emerging as one of the defining human leadership voices of this decade. Find out more via www.empathyeverywhere.co or [email protected]